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| | | | | | | | | | I am looking forward to an exciting year of learning, and growing. What better way to start than focusing on how we communicate. It may not seem so, however, effective communication is a skill. You can learn to communicate clearly and concisely. In this month’s issue we will discuss the definition of effective communication, explain why it's important, explore a few elements of effective communication and provide you with a few tips to improve your communication skills.
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What is effective communication? It is the ability to have a conversation with another person in an engaging, focused, and consistent way that offers value. Communicating effectively involves two or more people who can clearly express their intent and understand the focus or purpose of the conversation, all while each person gets their point across.
It is important for people to communicate effectively in order to express their needs and understanding the tasks or duties given to them. Some examples of effective communication skills may include: · Active listening · Nonverbal communication · Questioning · Problem-solving · Decision-making · Clarity · Confidence · Empathy and compassion · Respect · Feedback Why is effective communication important? Learning to communicate effectively can provide value to your life and all those you interact with. It offers the following benefits:
· Helps you show an understanding of what the other person is saying. · Helps to prevent conflict that arises from misinterpretation and confusion.. · Improves your ability to engage. · Helps you identify solutions to common problems because you are able to clearly express/listen to concerns. · Helps to build trust by showing empathy and compassion. Elements of effective communication Effective communication includes, but are not limited to, these elements: · Engagement You show engagement through verbal or nonverbal cues that show active listening. Another important part of engagement is encouraging the speaker to continue or encouraging them to respond. · Focus When you focus on the speaker, they feel heard and understood. In addition to listening to the words the speaker is saying; you also pay attention to nonverbal cues such as body language and intonations. · Consistency When you are consistent, the listener can understand and gauge the direction of the conversation. This is true whether you are talking about something fun or discussing a stressful topic. · Value Communication is a two-way process and for it to be effective, all communicators should try to provide value to the others involved in the conversation. You do that by asking pertinent questions, identifying a purpose, encouraging questions to be asked. · Emotional management When you understand how your emotions influence a conversation, you can better control them. You show empathy, compassion, and the ability to accept different cultures, communication styles, and/or ways of expressing by the emotions you show when engaged in conversation. · Clarity Before speaking, it is helpful to first identify your purpose and how best to express it. When listening to someone, identify and summarize what the speaker says to show your understanding. If you’re unsure, you can always ask questions or paraphrase to gain further clarity. Tips for communicating effectively Here are a few tips you can use to communicate more effectively: · Choose the right method of communication. Effective communication demands that you choose the best method of communication for the topic. Text messages are for information, emails are for information that require a “few” more details. Pick up the phone and/or schedule an in-person appointment, if necessary, for conversations that are technical or emotional in nature. · Understand the barriers to effective communication. Common barriers include stress, feeling emotionally overwhelmed, difficulty focusing, or inconsistent body language. · Try to stay on topic. Interruptions or shifting the direction of the conversation can affect the overall purpose. Aim to stay on topic by contributing to the topic in discussion. · Use nonverbal communication. Nonverbal cues, including but not limited to body language, can be an important part of effective communication methods. Identify the body language of others and pay attention to how you respond to certain things to gain better emotional clarity. · Strengthen skills related to communication. Improving certain skills, like teamwork and problem-solving, can also help with enhancing communication. Other important communication skills include active listening, asking questions and problem-solving. (add link. · Consider cultural differences. Cultural backgrounds can influence how a person communicates. It’s important to consider how someone’s background may influence their communication style, and how this may differ from what you consider effective. · Pause between responses. Pausing between responses in a conversation can help you give consideration to everything said in order to give a response that brings value to the conversation. This also allows you to focus on the speaker and what they’re saying rather than using that time to create your rebuttal.
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Business Application
In business, communication is business itself. The greater the effectiveness of the communication, the greater the likelihood the business will develop and grow. The key element in communication has always been and will always remain the individual. It does not matter what your position, salary or status; it’s your
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Ministry Application
A strong church culture requires constant attention to good communication. Effective communication requires a consistent process that begins with a healthy approach to decision making and requires accuracy and repetition when sharing messages. Some of the best practices of a strong church are:
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Personal Application
Communication is effective communication when it is received in the way it is intended. Unlike traditional communication training that focuses on assertiveness skills, effective communication considers context, delivery, and most importantly, how the message is heard. It is difficult, if not impossible, for communication to be
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* Become a Better Listener You can communicate better if you listen better.
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personality, perception, reactions and so on that define the quality your communication. German writer Johann Wolfgang von Goethe is famously quoted to have said, “Behavior is a mirror in which everyone displays his own image.” I believe that says it all. Who’s responsible for effective communication in the workplace? Forbes Magazine states there are two subjective factors, each of which might create a misunderstanding, which influences the quality of communication. The first factor is people’s expectations about others. Most expectations create an illusion that all people are the same (i.e., they perceive things the same, process them the same, and understand them the same.) When something happens, a new revelation arises. We are, in fact, not the same. At that point, people often shift into a fresh way of thinking (i.e., we are all completely different, we will never understand one another, we cannot work together, etc.). When this happens, we might lose our motivation (and such behavior is common for all of us) and looking for others who are similar until their next disappointing interaction. This process continues to repeat itself, given that, as a general rule, people believe the cause of misunderstanding is because of others. Therefore, the second factor that influences communication is about personal responsibility. Who do you think is really responsible for business communication, a sender or a recipient? In fact, both are equally responsible, but the scope of responsibility is different. • The sender is responsible for: o Attracting and holding the attention of others. o Delivering a message clearly and answering questions. o Ensuring that people understand them and paraphrasing if needed. • The recipient is responsible for: o Being attentive and focusing on others. o Actively listening and asking questions if needed. o Providing feedback that the initial message is understood. You have effectively communicated when the person you are sending a message to understands it completely. How To Encourage Effective Communication To ensure your workplace is one that enables successful communication, it’s important to first understand what demonstrates a lack of effective communication within companies, such as: • Conflicts and misunderstandings between departments, teams and colleagues. • Incorrect implementation of strategies, agreements or plans. • An atmosphere that does not include collaboration, openness and trust. • No initiative to communicate, ask for help, share or criticize. • The employees’ inability to identify with the company’s mission and vision. • High staff turnover, despite adequate remuneration and scheduling. If you’re seeing any of these signals, you likely need to work on your communication techniques. 1. Explain the motivation behind changing poor communication habits. Employees should understand the purpose of this change, which can be promoted through stories of success and how they benefit from the outcome. You can also ask for additional input from formal and informal leaders who support the change. A measure of the success at this level is when staff shows interest and starts generating ideas. 2. Educate your employees about characteristics that make us different. With that, practice the technologies of effective communication. I believe a corporate training format is always the best option, given that it transforms the communication process from reactive to proactive. In proactive communication, a person finds the origins of reality in themselves, while in reactive communication they believe that the origins are in others. According to Stephen Covey, author of The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, proactivity is one of the most important qualities of any successful person, not to mention leaders, whose efforts are directly associated with the achievements of any company. Success at this level can be measured by an increase in the frequency of interactions between employees, teams and departments. 3. Start implementing common standards of communication. These standards should be first established in one team or department to address terminology, channels of exchanging information, level of urgency, expected results, employees’ roles, needed feedback, deadlines, etc. Special forms with a brief description of each business interaction do create effectiveness. This step might incorporate paperwork, brainstorming, group discussions, case studies, etc. The measure of success at this level is a noticeable positive atmosphere within employees who begin to sense the first tangible effects of change. Then these standards can be promoted throughout the entire company. Success in business still remains as one of the most challenging facets in today’s turbulent economy. External factors are now more volatile and unpredictable; more importantly, a constructive and operable system from the “inside” is paramount to survive such conditions. Ensuring functionality under such conditions is based on two components, people and finances, which are strongly interconnected. Competent leaders do play a role whereby they react to challenges, but effective leaders with a developed proactive attitude address challenges before they manifest. Excerpts of this article was taken from Forbes Magazine https://www.forbes.com/sites/forbescoachescouncil/2019/09/04/how-to-develop-effective-communication-within-a-company/?sh=30cdd4375edf
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• They communicate well. • They recognize it is almost impossible to communicate too much. • They keep in mind that communication is more than making announcements or designing a Facebook page. Successful leaders realize communication is more than any one task; it is a core process with many related components. The full process includes: 1. Making sure you are making “quality decisions” A good communication process begins before there is anything to announce. This is true when communication includes information about a change or something new. Church initiatives and changes almost always derive from a decision. Quality decisions include as many people as possible in the development stage. They are collaborative. Your leadership is in place for a reason. After you have heard from God, you can tell them what He said. When you include them in the development of your assignment, they can inform their ministry members. Because the information is coming from you and not through the rumor mill, you all will speak the same thing. Whether you are deciding on a new ministry, a change in an existing schedule, or a policy revision, invite your church leaders to come alongside. You may even need to consult a transition manager to help them craft the content of their dialog. By doing so, you enlist a wider group of informed advocates who can speak about the decision and answer questions asked by people you might never encounter. Participant agreement will lead to some of the most effective communication possible. 2. Quantity of messages Communication specialists estimate it takes telling a message 16 times for the information to spread throughout an organization. That number may seem like overkill, but it rarely is. The larger your church, the more you should consider 16 times as a bare minimum. Today, people get their news from a variety of sources: Twitter, TV, websites, etc. In the same way, church members get their information about congregational life in many ways. Therefore, effective church communication is multi-channel: Facebook page, Twitter, newsletter, group texts, website, and targeting small group leaders who can help disseminate information. Simply making 16 announcements on Sunday morning will not get the message to everyone. By increasing the number of communication channels, you improve the likelihood of reaching more people. You must also consider the need for appropriate lead time to get information spread throughout a congregation. If you have information vital to a decision, a new ministry, or a schedule change, it’s better to delay a target date to allow time to communicate thoroughly than it is to abbreviate communication to meet a deadline. Start early enough to give your message time to permeate the church family. 3. Clear and accurate information Accurate facts and clear information are basic components of healthy communication. One pitfall of disseminating information through many channels is: the more channels you use, the harder it is to keep facts accurate across them all. One person may post an event to Facebook, while another develops the newsletter. A third sends out an email blast. We increase the chance of factual mistakes every time we add a person to the list of those responsible for getting the word out. Checking and rechecking times and locations are as mundane as it is important. Facts must be accurate. Changing the time of a meeting or event may not seem like a significant issue to you, but it may be to individuals who are embarrassed when they arrived late because they received inaccurate communication.
4. Consistent practices The next component of healthy communication is the alignment of what we do with what we say. Policies that are unequally applied, procedures that are ignored, and information provided to a few, and not to all, carry damaging unspoken messages that undermine relationships and trust. All these components are parts of the same process. They are interrelated and require constant coordination. Though you are called as the pastor or ministry leader , you still have the responsibility to make calls, respond to emails, etc. in order to keep the lines of communication open. There is a way, however, to view paying attention to these components of the communication process as a higher calling. Try seeing them as a part of congregational care. Every time you practice effective communication, you are safeguarding the congregation from conflict, misunderstanding, and self-inflicted pain. | | | | MORE From Personal Development
effective if it is not correctly received. Being eloquent is no guarantee you are effective. You are responsible for what you say and how you say it. Before speaking, you need to know what you hope to create and/or communicate. Sometimes people impulsively express their hurt and anger without regard to the outcome. You may want to say how you feel and hope your communication will bring you closer together, improve understanding, allow for forgiveness, and increase trust and intimacy. However, if you don’t say it correctly or communicate it effectively, you may well end up increasing your distance, amplifying the hurt, and causing bitterness. There is a better way. 1. Check the context. First, rather than being assertive, it may be more effective to have a variety of strategies that are applied as needed, depending on a situation. Before speaking, it may be helpful to evaluate the environment, read the context of what is going on, and assess how your recipient is feeling. • Are they upset about something else? • Are they relaxed and open to having a conversation? • Is this a good time to bring up an important issue? • Is the recipient ready and able to hear what you have to say? • Are you aware of certain sensitivities based on yours or the recipient’s past? Again, the purpose is to deliver a message how you intended successfully. 2. Check your own emotional level. • Are you irritated about something unrelated to the person with whom you are talking? • Is something in the present triggering something from your past? • Are you unintentionally generating enough negative and intensive emotion to knock the recipient off balance? • Do you intend to create pain? Maybe take a breath and ground yourself before talking. 3. What is your message? • Is your message clear or are you sending a mixed message? • Are you saying, “I’m fine,” however, your body language conveys upset (e.g., arms crossed and face looks upset, not talking)? • What do you want the recipient to do (i.e., go away, move toward you, give you some space, or ask another question? A mixed message is confusing and a set up for miscommunication and further upset. 4. Pay attention to how you package your message. If you have a sensitive message, be thoughtful of how you will deliver it. You may intend to share an important feeling. However, make sure it is not presented as blame, accusation, or threats. If you don’t, the conversation will probably shift from the main issue to something else. • A safer way is to focus on how you are feeling using an “I-message” “I feel (hurt, lonely, etc,) when you (don’t answer your phone, leave dishes in the sink, etc.)” • This is in contrast to a “You-message”, such as “You never answer the phone,” or “Why do you leave dishes when you know it upsets me?”. 5. Be a good listener. Maybe even more important than delivering good communications is being a good recipient. Not only do you need to listen to the words being spoken; you also need to listen to the tone of their voice and body language. What is the emotion they are conveying? If you can read the other person’s feelings (have empathy and work towards understanding the other person’s point of view), you will vastly improve your communication skills. When people feel heard, they will much more likely be open to hearing you too. Another tool is to repeat, through understanding, what you heard the other person said. This not only is confirmation for you that you heard it correctly, but very satisfying for the person who delivered the communication. 6. Prepare for your conversation. If you have something you want to communicate, you can start by writing it down. The first draft may have strong emotions and it’s ok to give yourself a chance to express them. However, do not use that draft. In the second draft, consider how the other person is going to receive your message. • Are you being empathetic with how they are feeling? • Are you considering how you are packaging your communication? Before you talk, evaluate what you have written by going through steps 1-5 and editing as needed.
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